Gouya Roshan From Darkness to Light

Being people is not important; being human is important In a world where population and numbers have become the measure of value, we often forget that more than anything else, people need real relationships, not crowds. Although in today’s world people are more connected to each other than ever before. Social media, social gatherings, and friendly get-togethers mean fewer people are truly alone, yet a strange problem exists: the feeling of loneliness has not decreased. Perhaps the reason is that crowds do not necessarily mean intimacy and security. Sometimes, in a large crowd, a person can be lonelier than ever. Over the years, we have learned to confuse quantity with value: we think the more people we have around us, the richer our lives will be. But in my personal experience, the quality of relationships is far more important than their number. A few healthy and genuine relationships can give a person a sense of peace that no crowd can provide. Of course, we must understand what it m...

  Do Some People Take Pleasure in the Suffering of Others? Author:  Gouya Roshan I do not believe that someone who takes pleasure in the pain of others is necessarily “cruel.” However, the hearts of such individuals often carry one common trait: unresolved suffering. Those who have been repeatedly humiliated or ignored sometimes find a temporary sense of power or calm in watching others fail. This is not always driven by malice, but rather by a constant comparison with others and by measuring their self-worth against past humiliations. In this process, the mistakes of others become a source of psychological nourishment for them. These individuals are not entirely heartless, but they often lack deep empathy; as if their capacity for empathy has not fully developed. Behind this behavior lies a hidden fear. The faces of those who take pleasure in others’ suffering often scream an unspoken message: “At least I am not the worst one.” More important than these personality traits, ho...

  Trust; a word everyone speaks, but few live by Author: Gouya Roshan  Distrust among individuals is a complex and multidimensional phenomenon rooted in personal experiences, social structures, and historical transformations. Human beings, as social creatures, are inevitably engaged in interaction with others; yet these interactions are often accompanied by disappointments, betrayals, misunderstandings, or inequalities, sowing seeds of doubt in both mind and heart. When trust, the very foundation of human relationships, is damaged, bonds weaken and an invisible yet profound distance forms between people. In a world where the pace of change, competition, and social pressures continue to intensify, distrust is no longer merely an individual feeling but has become a collective problem. This condition threatens not only personal relationships, but also social cohesion, cooperation, and even the broader meaning of human life itself. To address the concept of distrust is, in essence...

  Winter Is the Season of Inequality Author: Goya Roshan Winter is not the same for everyone. While for some it is a time of calm, silence, and the safety of a warm home, for others it becomes the harshest test of survival. This inequality lies not in the severity of the cold, but in how it is experienced. When I look outside through the window, I cannot feel at ease. A window is not merely a pane of glass; it is a boundary between two worlds. On one side, relative security, warmth, and comfort; on the other, cold, homelessness, and fear of the night. This simple contrast challenges the human conscience. Winter is the hardest season for the poor, not because it is colder than other seasons, but because it exposes accumulated deprivation. The lack of safe shelter, warm clothing, or heating turns cold from a natural phenomenon into a disabling suffering. Under such conditions, poverty is no longer just a lack of income; it is the loss of security, health, and human dignity. What peop...

Aggression and Egocentrism: The Failure Triangle of Modern Politicians Author:  Goya Roshan When great politicians hold power, they face two paths before them: listening and exercising patience, or choosing aggression and egocentrism. Contemporary experience shows that those who choose the latter path, even if they are talented, endanger both themselves and their countries. Clear examples of this style can be seen in Donald Trump and Recep Tayyip Erdoğan. Despite being fully aware of the importance of relations with allies, Trump has repeatedly demonstrated through his harsh rhetoric and verbal attacks against Canada, Mexico, and even Germany on the international stage that his priority is displays of power and attracting media attention. During the period of trade tariffs, even when the U.S. economy needed cooperation with Canada and China, his hasty decisions created anxiety among companies and led to the loss of some moderate support within his voter base. This example illustrat...

  An Inner Boundary for Remaining Human Author: Gouya Roshan  In a world where judgment and humiliation happen very quickly, being human is difficult. Many of us highlight the flaws of others and overlook our own. But what if, before every judgment, we looked inward? What if we were reminded that our own flaws and sins might be greater than all others? This article is an experience of a way of life: a method I have lived with for years and that has kept my path illuminated. For years, whenever I enter a gathering, before thinking about the flaws of others, I tell myself: perhaps my flaws and sins are greater than everyone else’s. Not to humiliate myself or out of fear, but to prevent crossing a boundary called judgment, humiliation, or discrimination. This inner reminder has not distanced me from life or made me hopeless; rather, it has been a light that has kept my path clear. With this perspective, I have been able to interact with others without judgment or a sense of super...

  What Is Honor? Author: Gouya Roshan In many traditional societies, a man’s value and identity are tied to his control over the women in his family. Over time,  honor  has been transformed into a sexualized concept imposed on women, rather than a reflection of truth, humanity, integrity, and responsibility. Of course, this perception differs in Western societies, where social pressure is generally less intense. However, if we consider the following, it becomes clear that this sensitivity often stems from inner anxiety and insecurity: a lack of self-confidence, fear of social judgment, or low self-esteem. Instead of cultivating intrinsic values, individuals cling to superficial perceptions and the control of others. In some societies, people do not hold this view out of personal conviction, but out of fear of what others might say. As a result, honor becomes something defined by others, not by one’s own conscience. At times, instead of being a genuine moral value, honor i...